Aunt Yu's household registration was settled, and Chunyu felt relieved.
Yesterday, Aunt Yu went to the Yamen with Uncle Qin to register as a household registration, and she became Qin Caiyu.
Chun Yu told her fourth uncle the good news, and asked him to go back and talk to his family, prepare a betrothal gift, and then ask a matchmaker to come to Uncle Qin's house to arrange marriage.
After all, Uncle Qin's family was now Aunt Yu's natal family.
Chunyu remembers that in ancient Chinese folk marriages, matchmakers played a very key role.
As the saying goes, "If there are no clouds in the sky, it won't rain; if there is no matchmaker on the ground, there won't be a marriage."
This is the so-called fate, and both men and women must also go through the matchmaker's advice.
Only when they are together can they get married.
There are many matchmakers who can take the initiative to help matchmaking between men and women.
There are also things that are entrusted by others and are loyal to others.
It's like the marriage between Chun Yu's fourth uncle and Aunt Yu.
After a successful match is made, the hard-working matchmaker will receive some money, which is called a matchmaker thank you gift.
This money is usually paid by the man's family, but if the man marries his wife, it will be paid by the woman.
Also, the day before the wedding, the matchmaker's chickens, ducks, elbows, shoes, socks, fabrics, etc. will also be delivered to the matchmaker's home.
The matchmaker must guide the matchmaker the next day.
These are called matchmaking, matchmaking, and matchmaking.
As for the amount of the matchmaking gift, it is determined by the financial situation of the host family, and it must be sealed with red paper, called a red envelope or envelope.
Also, if the woman's parents and brothers want to entertain the man when they are seeing each other, it means that the man has obtained the consent of the woman's family.
But if the meal is not prepared for a long time and the man is allowed to leave and go out, it means that the marriage is about to fall through.
In ancient times, marriage visits were also very reserved.
Of course, this kind of thing would not be said clearly.
It all depended on the observation of the man and the matchmaker.
Of course, the woman may also "visit" the man's home, which is called "kandang" here.
If the girl's parents are unwilling to accept the entertainment and insist on leaving, it means that the marriage will not be successful.
At this time, of course the man cannot force him to stay.
If the girl's parents check out the boy's family situation and readily accept the invitation, or drink the fragrant tea served in one gulp, then of course everyone will be happy with the outcome.
After a blind date, both men and women can perform certain marriage procedures.
This process is called "courtesy."
During the ceremony, the matchmaker needs to send the man's birth date to the woman, and then the woman's birth date to the man.
At this time, most superstitious parents will ask fortune tellers to predict the compatibility or incompatibility of the horoscopes of both men and women.
If they agree, the marriage will continue; if they disagree, the marriage will be discontinued.
After changing the posts and combining the horoscopes, the matchmaker will choose a good day to take the man to a "ceremony" to get engaged.
"Gifts" are a big deal in weddings.
The person who takes the initiative in the wedding should send a generous gift to the other party.
Customs vary from place to place, and the gifts given also vary.
Some places require that gifts include at least a pig's knuckle, two bottles of wine, a chicken and a duck, a set of clothing for the other person's parents, a pair of shoes and socks, a package, and some things for the girl.
As for how much money to put in the envelope and what kind of engagement gifts to give to the girl, these are usually negotiated separately between the matchmaker and both parties in advance, and cannot be determined by the amount given by the man.
After the "ceremony", the man and woman can agree on a date for getting married.
Moreover, in the traditional concepts of ancient China, the choice of the day to get married is also very particular.
People believe that the choice of the wedding day is related to the future happiness of both men and women.
This activity of choosing a good time and auspicious day is called "choosing a good time" or "choosing auspicious days".
The task of choosing a date is usually completed by astrologers or fortune tellers.
Of course, family members with a high level of education can also read the "Imperial Calendar" or make their own calculations and decisions.
After the wedding date is decided, parents of both parties can send out invitations and invite relatives and friends to the wedding.
Wedding invitations are usually delivered personally to relatives and friends by the parties to the marriage or their parents.
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After receiving the wedding invitation, relatives and friends, generally speaking, should send gifts and write a congratulatory message on the gifts, even if they cannot go.
In rural areas, most of the gifts given to the woman are in kind, such as boxes, cabinets, beds, quilts, clothes, materials, etc.
Moreover, the gift giver does not have to wait until the invitation is delivered, because the girl’s parents have to decide the marriage based on the number of gift givers.
Wine scale.
In ancient times, the day before a man and a woman got married, the woman would send someone to the man's house to build a house with him.
This process was called "house building."
There are differences between men and women in laying things.
Sima Guang said in Shuyi's third wedding ceremony: "The man's family should prepare the beds, chairs, tables, etc., and the women's family should prepare the felts, tents, curtains, quilts, etc."
Come to the greenhouse to prepare gifts.
He also used a trusted woman and an envoy from the married woman to guard the house and not let outsiders enter the house to wait for the new couple.
There is a process that a woman has to do one or two days before getting married, which is also called facial opening.
At that time, women with both children are invited to twist two threads together to pluck out the hair on the face of the woman to be married.
Then after getting married, it will be pulled out again, which is commonly known as "face-saving".
When a married woman opens her face, two pots of evergreen are placed next to her, both of which are wrapped with red paper for good luck.
And when a woman gets married, she wears an extra velvet flower on her head.
The velvet flowers are made of braided straw into human images, such as a unicorn giving birth to a child.
Because velvet flower is homophonic with glory, it means prosperity and wealth.
According to legend, Concubine Yang Guifei in the Tang Dynasty had a small mole on her temple.
She often planted flowers to cover it up.
Because flowers were easy to wither, they replaced it with velvet flowers made by the people.
From then on, it became a custom among the people to follow suit.
The custom of what a bride wears when she gets married.
Phoenix clothes and crowns are clothes embroidered with rich bird patterns and colorful decorations, symbolizing good luck and wealth, but these were unique to ancient nobles.
Most women in other families have to embroider their wedding dresses themselves.
But from what Chunyu knew, Chunyu felt that her family didn't need to worry too much about it.
Her family's life was now considered well-off, so she didn't have to worry about it.
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