The human psyche is a very wonderful thing, and the psychological state of guilt is a psychological state that everyone has, which is an instinct that human beings have evolved to regulate the relationship between ethnic groups in ancient times.
Mental causes mainly come from the imbalance between giving and receiving.
When human beings feel guilty, it is a reminder that it is time for you to repay the other person, and if in a relationship, only one party is unilaterally giving, then this is actually rejecting the other party's return, rejecting the other party's compensation, breaking the other party's efforts to resolve their guilt, so that the guilt in the other person's heart continues to accumulate, and finally turns into anger, and begins to get rid of or flee the relationship, and finally victimizes both parties.
As the most basic emotion, guilt is a gift from nature, and it reminds us that one of your relationships needs to be adjusted.
If you know how to accept your guilt and help the other person to accept his guilt, then the relationship will flow naturally and move towards harmony.
Xueli's situation is actually the same, but she is the hurting party, if she is not given a chance to make up for the other party, the guilt will also accumulate in her heart, which will produce negative emotions such as pain and remorse, and even begin to self-doubt that mental illness is not fake, everyone has a little bit more or less, and no one is completely healthy.
Otherwise, some people are cowering, and some people are confident and generous, is this innate?
It's true that Yukiri is a second fool, but the second fool also has feelings, she is not a robot, she will also feel guilty, and she will be painful, but she is relatively less sensitive, but she feels guilty but has no ability to make up for the other party, and the way she can make up for it is probably only to replace Nishisaka Takagi to duel or fight Nishisaka Takagi is obviously a decent athletic teenager, and eighty percent have no need for this.
That's why Kitahara Shuji is willing to bow his head and say soft words, and he is even a little eager to make up for it.
It's not for the Nishisaka sisters and brothers, to put it mildly, they don't matter much to Kitahara Shuji, it's completely equal to passerby A, what really matters is Yukiri.
He wants to be happy in the snow, and his heart will always be as clear as crystal, and he is willing to pay the price for this.
He knew that Xueli was under a lot of pressure during this time, the people around her were talking about her, the people on the Internet were talking about her, almost everyone was talking about her, there were many people praising her, there were many people scolding her, and even a lot of sewage was splashed on her There are tens of millions of people who care about Koshien in Japan alone, and even more people from neighboring countries may have more than 10,000 people who are disgusted and disgusted with the snow, and it is possible that even 100,000 people can have good words in their mouths People can really curse the dead, but usually death is not so intuitive.
Of course, Xueli is quite heartless by nature, and her ability to resist pressure is still very strong, but she is still under huge mental pressure, she didn't say it, maybe she was stupid enough to say it, but she did suffer from huge mental pressure.
If time could be turned back, Kitahara Shuji would never allow that bastard Suzuki to touch the snow, promising to kick her in the ass and let her roll as far as she wanted, and would rather accept the consequences of turning her face than agree to Suzuki Noshi's troubles and drag her into the snow.
It's just that when he understands that it's too late, then he can only choose to work hard to win, and use one victory after another to silence those opponents.
As a boyfriend, it is a natural responsibility to protect your girlfriend, and this is not negotiable He will do everything he can And now Kitahara Shuji tilted his head to look at the snow, looking at her cheerful expression again, and his heart was extremely relieved, but I'm only a little taller than in the snow now If you want to look better when you stand with Xueli, it's best to be half a head taller than her, then you have to grow to more than 1.8 meters, but the other radish head girlfriend is too short, and she makes soup and tonic for her every day, so she doesn't see any growth So whether you should grow tall or not, is a bit of a dilemma Yukiri felt Kitahara Shuji's gaze very keenly, and said to him, "Xiuji, it's so nice to have you, Sister Eichi and Nishisaka feel so happy" The important thing is that you are happy but Kitahara Shuji didn't say anything, just smiled and nodded: "We finally helped them a little bit, and they can't be secretly angry because of the injury anymore." ” "I know, that's good" Yukiri grabbed Kitahara Shuji's arm and said happily: "In the past, my father and mother were not in good health, and my sister took me to visit the sick this way, but my sister is not as articulate as you, and she can't talk flatteringly, which makes everyone angry and she is even more angry." ” Your sister is taking you to quarrel, that guy is an unreasonable character to fight for three points, and he refuses to bow his head and refuse to suffer, but the little radish head used to be quite difficult, she is a bastard again, she really tried her best to protect Xueli, which is beyond reproach, she fulfilled her sister's obligations.
Kitahara Shuji smiled: "Just leave this kind of thing to me in the future."
"He's not afraid of trouble, anyway, he thinks he's definitely better at dealing with this kind of thing than Little Carrot Head, and he should be completely responsible.
Yukiri had no opinion, but after thinking about it for a while, she also grew up and knew that she had been protected.
She tugged on Kitahara Shuji's arm hard, hugged him tightly in her arms, and almost dislocated him, muttering, "I'm so lucky to have you." ” But why don't you keep not winning when you buy lottery tickets, and if you win the lottery, you will have money to repay everyone Kitahara Shuji rubbed his shoulders and said helplessly: "It's also our luck to have you." ” "We're going to be together forever" "Okay, let's always be together and be together" Kitahara Shuji replied without hesitation this time, he is willing to take care of this mentally handicapped child for a lifetime, shelter her from the wind and rain, so that she can live happily like a second ha forever.
There is no need to mature in the snow, there is no need to grow up, it is good for him to do this kind of trouble That's how it should be, men "Yes, I'll be very good to you in the future, Xiuji" Yukiri is quite sensible in a certain aspect, but she muttered for a while and didn't think of how to be good to Kitahara Shuiji, so she could only promise hard: "I'll give you a sister, I'll give you a pension."
Kitahara Shuji looked at Xueli speechlessly for a while, you are so sure that we will die in front of you But he thought about it carefully, it is really hard to say, Xueli is strong like this, it is not possible to live for more than a hundred years, and it is not necessarily her opponent to fight for life, so he can only nod and say: "Then thank you." ” "It's okay, Shuji, this is what I'm supposed to do."
Xueli looked into the distance and said seriously: "When you are old, I will push you in a wheelchair so that you can play outside every day, and I will take care of you." ” Kitahara Shuji smashed his mouth, it turned out that he had to have Parkinson's or rheumatism before he died, and he was in this special wheelchair.
But it's okay, he joked, "Don't push us, you'll be in a wheelchair then, and the three of us will race in a wheelchair." ” "No, Xiuji, my sister will definitely be angry if she loses.
She looks like a little mouse, her arms are so short, she can't turn fast, she will definitely lose her liver and brains in one defeat."
Kitahara Shuji was stunned, and thought about the grand scene of an old man and two old ladies in wheelchair racing in the future, and felt that the thin and small little radish head old lady really couldn't win, and she would have to be eighty years old at that time, do you want to let her and let her win once He really thought about it for a while, but soon laughed dumbly: "Then forget it, you still push us" At the age of eighty, I don't want to lose to Little Radish Head, even if I am in a wheelchair, I will torture her to death, but it is better to spare her a dog's life, after all, she is so old at that time.
Yukiri nodded vigorously: "I'm sure I'm pushing you well" Then she tested the temperature of her forehead for Kitahara Shuji and asked, "Xiuji, are you hot?"
Kitahara Shuji looked at the sun in the sky, August is the height of summer, of course the sun is very strong, but the good thing about Hyogo Prefecture is that it faces the sea on both sides, the wind is relatively strong, and the summer is not unbearable, anyway, it is much stronger than Nagoya, and the ghost place is humid and stuffy and hot.
He was a little relieved, Xueli is becoming more and more like a girl, although he is still very stupid to speak, but he knows how to care about people, which is a good thing.
He said softly: "I'm not hot, are you hot" "I'm so hot, Xiuji" Yukiri nodded again and again, and fanned the wind with her hand to show that it was really hot.
Kitahara Shuji looked at her carefully, there was only a healthy flush on her fair face, a feeling of vitality, no sweat on her forehead, and it didn't feel like it was very hot He immediately became alert, looked around, and sure enough, he saw an ice cream parlor and couldn't help asking, "Do you want to eat ice cream" Xueli looked at him expectantly, and didn't ask for it, just waited.
Her eyes were so pure, and her pupils were so dark and glowing that Kitahara Shuji was a little distracted for a moment, and she couldn't help but compromise, "It's so hot, it's good to eat some ice cream." ” After saying that, he wanted to give himself a mouthful, and he also wanted to help Xueli control his diet, but he unconsciously forgot that ice cream is high in sugar and calories, even if he just eats a cone, there are 200,250 kcal, and Yixueli's weight needs to run for more than half an hour to burn it, otherwise it will turn into fat.
Probably it will be difficult for him to refuse any request from Xueli in his life, it is really a big failure in life, but he can't talk and count, and leads Xueli into the ice cream dessert shop with great interest.
The decoration here is very elegant and casual, playing soft jazz music, and the air conditioning is also turned on very well, and it makes people feel cool from the inside out, and Xueli usually doesn't come to this kind of shop, looking left and right is a little curious, which can't help but make Kitahara Shuji soften a little bit of a little radish head usually manages her very strictly, and it doesn't matter if she relaxes occasionally The next is not an example He led the snow to a remote corner and sat down, and soon a little girl dressed in a Victorian maid's costume came over and asked softly, "Two guests, what do you want to order?"
She gave the parchment dessert list to Kitahara Shuji and Yukiri, and Yukiri took it carefully, looking at the colorful picture and swallowing a mouthful of saliva, it looked delicious, but it seems that zero is a lot, and it is very expensive She didn't order either, waiting for Kitahara Shuji to order, and Kitahara Shuji wanted to help her order the least amount to deal with, but seeing that her saliva was about to flow out, she felt that she was coming, and it should be okay to make her happy once The next is not an example "In the snow, you can eat whatever you want."
Kitahara Shuji felt that this should be regarded as his first date with Yukiri, and he should back down a little so that Yukiri could have a good memory when he understood it in the future.
"Can I order it?"
Yukiri was taken aback, and then couldn't help but be overjoyed, and both eyebrows began to jump.
She put the dessert sheet flat on the table, put her shallot-white fingers on a single-ball cantaloupe ice cream on the top, and then carefully observed Kitahara Shuji's complexion, and found that he didn't seem to be angry, so she decisively crossed her finger down five places and changed it to a double-ball one She glanced at Kitahara Shuji again, but there was still no reaction, and she decisively drew one place again, and changed it to a double ball with an egg roll, and then looked at Kitahara Shuji, if Fuyumi was here, she felt that she should almost be beaten.
But Kitahara Shuji thinks it's okay to have a double ball egg roll, let her be happy today, it's not a psychological imbalance recently, it's a compensation, just coax a child, don't take it as an example Well, if you want a three-goal one again, you can do it today The size of the three-ball giant cup is not much worse, and it is acceptable.
Oh, it's changed to a three-ball couple giant cup again, this is a bit big, it's for two Ice cream fondue single set chocolate is even more high-calorie, this is not an example, just this time Kitahara Shuji's psychological bottom line decreased step by step, and finally Xueli lowered his eyebrows and pressed his finger to the bottom of the page, and didn't speak, just waited.
Kitahara Shuji struggled fiercely in his heart for a while, sighed secretly, turned his head to the waiter and said, "We want this Survia volcano." ” "Ah, what are you talking about" The waitress in the maid's costume came back to her senses, her cheeks faintly reddened, and she looked at Kitahara Shuji and was distracted.
"We're going to order this" Kitahara Shuji returned the dessert list to the waiter, pointing it out to her by the way.
The waiter hurriedly performed his job, and after a glance, he persuaded: "The lord is not, guest, this is a four-person package, and the amount is very large." ” She has a good work ethic, but Kitahara Shuji smiled helplessly at her: "That's it, I'm sorry for you." ” What's wrong with the four-person package, I may not be able to eat two bites when it comes up You have no idea what kind of girlfriend I have: