"My parents had their own lives, but after they were born, their own lives were abandoned."
"On the surface, under the strong desire of my parents to control, I have become an accessory to my children, but from another perspective, the parents who poured all their expectations and energy into me have become an accessory to their children."
"In fact, since I became financially independent in college, I have been reflecting on a question, is my problem with my parents really just a special case?"
"Will there be many, many, or even most children who have encountered such problems with their parents?"
"So those parents who have a strong desire to control, those parents who are willing to give up their lives for the sake of their children, are more or less coerced by some mainstream rhetoric at the moment?"
"Suppose that because of the birth of a child, the focus of one's life should be tilted to this aspect; Because if you want to take care of and nurture your children with all your might, you must give up some things that you once liked and paid for, so wouldn't a person's life end the moment their children were born?"
"It's a cruel thing to just live to be twenty or thirty years old, and then the meaning of future survival will be directly taken away by others."
"However, my parents, and the thousands of parents who have been coerced by mainstream ideas, do not seem to think it is cruel, but are willing to apply all the deep fervor they have on their children."
"Giving one's ideals to the next generation, making them a continuation of one's own life, and thus completely denying the value of one's own existence, is in itself a manifestation of cowardice, and I don't think there is any point in living like this."
"And such parents are not only the perpetrators of their children's tragedies, but also the perpetrators of their own crimes."
"That's why I asked them to write a letter of apology to themselves apologizing for their previous self-inflicted harm."
Hei Xing looked at the eloquent "Yan Xiuze" in front of him in a daze, and suddenly felt that Colonel Storm was so strange at this moment, he couldn't have imagined that the extent to which he knew it before was so superficial, and he couldn't imagine that the other party still had such a rich inner world.
"To be honest, I really didn't expect you to say such profound words."
Yan Xiuze chuckled: "People will always grow up, if I only had resentment towards my parents when I was a child, then when I became an adult, it was naturally impossible to stay in the era of resentment forever." ” "Because too much resentment cannot solve any problem, only by seeing the essence of the problem can we get a real solution."
"And then, did the problem between you and your parents be resolved?"
asked Blackstar curiously.
"Yan Xiuze" tilted his head and said with a little noncommittality: "This can be regarded as a solution." ” "After that, they did write a letter of apology, and they did reflect on what they had done over the years, and they no longer controlled my life, which gave me a lot of autonomy."
"My father began to resume self-driving travel, and my mother no longer seemed to be satisfied with being a housewife and had the intention of returning to the workplace."
"In a way, they're starting to think about what it means to be alive, and they're no longer just focusing on me."
"But I feel that there is some truth in it, and they still don't understand it."
There seemed to be a faint regret hidden in Yan Xiuze's words: "However, this is also something that can't be helped." ” "After all, they're just ordinary people."
"People often say that admitting that their children are mediocre is actually a very difficult thing to do, but I think it doesn't seem to be easy to admit that your parents are mediocre."
"Maybe I made the same mistake as my parents, and they both put some high expectations on the other person that were beyond their own ability."
"So, in the end, I reconciled with my parents, because I shouldn't expect too much from them anymore."
"Isn't it wonderful," Black Star lamented, "It's a perfect thing to be able to tolerate each other's imperfections." ” "It would have been really good."
Yan Xiuze's face became a little gloomy: "But then it wasn't like that." ” "Later refers to" "After I awakened and became a superpower."
"Yan Xiuze" said coldly.
"After that, the government immediately controlled my parents, ostensibly by moving them to a luxury villa, but in fact they were under house arrest as a countermeasure against me."
"Since then, my parents' scope of action has been limited to the Tiandu area, and even the suburbs have been indispensable."
"I have to say that this really hit my only weakness, and I still can't just abandon my parents."
"Because of this incident, my attitude towards other people has also become bad, because I don't want to be too close to anyone anymore, so that the government has more means to restrain me."
"In other words, the only people the government can restrain you now are your parents, aren't they" Black Star's eyes lit up, and he seemed to think of a good idea: "If you don't have this restriction, are you willing to join the Black Star Society?"
"I know what's going on in your heart, but I advise you to die of this heart."
"Yan Xiuze" seemed to see through what Hei Xing was thinking at a glance, and said in a flat tone.
"Why do we have the existence of rock soldiers on our side, they can definitely rescue your parents from the government's surveillance without knowing it, as long as this weakness is removed, then for you, isn't it just that the sea is wide and the sky is high and the birds fly?"
"And then" "Yan Xiuze" was not moved by Black Star's plan, but asked rhetorically: "Do you want my parents to stay in the dark underground for the rest of their lives, just like you?"
"You still don't understand the government's ingenuity at this point."
"In fact, even if the government doesn't restrict their freedom to Tiandu, they have nowhere to go."
"My parents, their jobs, social networks, and familiar daily life circles are almost all in Tiandu, yes, with the existence of rock soldiers, it is naturally easy for their physical bodies to escape from the government's surveillance, but can you also move away from the friends they know and the surrounding environment by the way?"
"Once they are sent underground, then for them, their social identity is equivalent to complete death, which is no different from physical death."
"Normal people can't survive without society."
"Unless the person isn't normal
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